The Quickie: How To Create Closer, More Connected Friendships And Feel Less Lonely

Teach Me How To Adult

Are you feeling lonely and disconnected? There’s a phenomenon right now I’m seeing in friendships, where we get stuck in the “catching up” loop.

As we get older and enter our “splinter era” of different schedules, different priorities, and different life stages, it can feel like our friendships constantly take the backseat. We’re relegated to a one-dinner-a-month maintenance catchup that keeps us stuck in an endless loop of recounting our memories instead of making new ones.

I miss the intimacy and close bonds we got in our teenage years and early 20s when sleepovers and shared meals and weekend getaways were the norms.

So how do we go deeper in our friendships to create more intimacy?

Tune in as I dive deep on:

• Why creating memories is more important than quick catchups
• How novelty and exciting experiences create lasting memories
• Why some cities and places prioritize close community more than others
• Combatting loneliness in places that feel isolating
• The case for doing monotonous daily tasks like grocery shopping together
• Why being generous and accepting help will bring you closer
• Skipping the catchup coffees for a new experience or adventure
• Why we need to lean into hard conversations with a goal of resolution
• The 3 Fs: Friendships, flexibility and forgiveness

Our show is produced by:

• Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
• Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
• Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
• Sara Valentine, Content Producer

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