Why We Care What Other People Think: Unraveling Our Need for Approval and Validation

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Tony Overbay, LMFT, tackles the timeless question, "Why do we care so much about what others think?" Offering insights on halting the cycle of worrying over others' opinions, Tony emphasizes the importance of staying true to oneself (and ponders, "Who am I, really?"). He explores finding that sweet spot between valuing the world's input and heeding our inner voice—the one who truly knows us best. Tony illustrates that while the opinions of others can offer some worth, there's a limit to their significance. Ultimately, we have the fantastic opportunity to be captains of our ships, navigating through rough seas and basking in sunny skies alike.

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00:00 Introduction: The Big Question

00:46 Welcome to the Virtual Couch

00:57 Therapeutic Tools: Four Pillars of a Connected Conversation

01:48 Valentine's Day Special: Mini Course and Game

02:53 Why Do We Care So Much About What Others Think?

11:20 The Power of Projection and Shadow Self

17:06 Understanding and Accepting Your Shadow Self

20:18 Setting Healthy Boundaries

21:40 You Are Not the Center of the Universe

22:16 Understanding Our Place in the Universe

23:04 Exploring the Concept of Solipsism

24:27 The Reality of Other People's Existence

25:45 The Impact of Caring Too Much About Others' Opinions

26:59 The Importance of Authenticity and Individuality

28:48 The Consequences of Worrying About Others' Opinions

30:11 Trusting Your Instincts and Navigating Life

32:56 Balancing External Advice with Internal Compass

35:55 Understanding the Persona and Authenticity

42:38 Embracing Your Whole Self and Authentic Connections

43:34 Conclusion: The Value of Self-Understanding and Authenticity