Starting Over

Cold Water Hot Coffee

Today, Nate talks about how to start over after dealing with loss, the process of letting go, and how to create a mission statement. He first tackles loss, emphasizing that it is something everyone experiences, and all we can control is how we react to it. He shares his own personal experiences with loss, using the story of his divorce to explain how he overcame the grief that came with it to create a new path in his life.

He introduces the Buddhist idea that all suffering is tied to attachment. This leads to the concept of letting go and operating from a non-conditional mindset, non-attachment. He clarifies that “Nonattachment is not about not caring, or not loving. It's about freeing yourself from attachment to the outcomes of your care, to the outcomes of your love, to the outcomes of your giving, so that you can care and love and live and do these things freely without the unconscious agenda of expectation.”

So, how do we let go? Nate outlines the function of a mission statement, and how to approach writing your own. He shares his own, “I walk in peace and beauty, lighting the darkness with my love,” and then encourages listeners to write and repeat their own.

Key Topics:

• Introduction (00:12)
• Loss (01:23)
• How Nate overcame the loss of his marriage (03:19)
• Buddhist practices (07:20)
• Letting go and non-attachment (10:23)
• Mission statement (12:05)

Resources:

• Cold Water Hot Coffee Website
• The Grief Recovery Handbook
• Letting Go the Pathway to Surrender
• thegoodmenproject.com