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Getting Validation: How to Be a Star Not a Black Hole or Red Flag
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Today we're talking all about where we get our validation, and what happens when we only look for it externally without giving it to ourselves.
Ever get that feeling that you, or someone you're with, just can't really take in approval? Maybe compliments slide off uncomfortably, or they seem to do absolutely nothing for our self-image. Maybe we feel desperate for attention, affirmation, or we tend to wait for someone else to make decisions. Or maybe we feel the opposite -- like we are entitled to approval for every single thing and we have a hard time taking even gentle feedback.
These are all patterns that stem from withholding validation from ourselves. It not only feels awful from the inside, it's also really challenging for romantic partners. It can be a big red flag in relationships, especially if taken to extremes. The good news is that most people can learn how to decrease the intensity of these patterns by learning to give ourselves more approval -- and it feels amazing when we do.
Episode 9 breaks down validation-seeking behavior patterns. I'll cover what to look for in yourself or others, what's in your power to fix and what's not. I'll also show you how to start working with your own validation-seeking behaviors so you can better accept approval from yourself and others, and let it feel really good.
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Here are the topics for today:
Defining Validation
The Spectrum of Validation-Seeking
Why You're Not Weird or Lame for Needing Approval
Socialized Patterns in Approval-Seeking by Gender
Approval-Seeking Gone Wild, Validation Black Holes and Red Flags
Impact on Relationships
The Way Out of Misery: Repairing the Relationship with Ourselves
A First Step Exercise
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