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Welcome to a NorthPoint Counseling Perspective, a podcast that addresses the intricate tapestry of individual, relational, marriage, parenting, problematic sexual behavior, partner betrayal trauma, and mental health issues.
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It’s Not About The Sex is a podcast based on the book by the same name. Psychotherapist Andrew Susskind examines issues such as shame, grief, narcissism, and codependency to demonstrate how people use out-of-control sexual behavior to cope with broken heartedness. Each podcast he interviews other therapists who work with clients dealing with addictive behaviors around troubled relationships.
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A honest-talking, no barriers podcast for anyone that wants to know more about about sexual health, HIV/STD/Hepatitis C prevention, PrEP, LGBTQ inclusivity, substance use disorder, sexual positivity and other topics that most people avoid (or have "feelings" talking about). We give it to you honestly and bring in experts to share their advice and opinions.
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Welcome to our unique mental health podcast! Licensed therapist, Juliet Kuehnle, uses humor and real talk to dive into the stories of interesting people you (want to) know. Of course there will be therapy tips (because, let's be serious, we all need them!), but mostly these conversations are a glimpse into the vulnerability of the people you might think "have it all together." We want to elevate and normalize the dialogue around mental health and erase the stigma so we can all own our humann ...
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Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and renowned influencers and YouTubers. For 15 years Samuel has been one of the leading content generators for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for ...
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An enormous amount of time, money, effort, and good intentions goes into scientific research. But all too often the results aren’t shared – or effectively communicated – with those beyond the ivory tower of academia. The goal of Beyond the Jargon is to make academic research more accessible to a wider audience. Host Karen Albright engages listeners in a series of conversations designed to translate scientific research and to explore from a data-driven perspective the impacts of child abuse o ...
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In this episode, Juliet talks with fellow therapist, David Sanchez. David specializes in working with clients with problematic sexual behaviors (porn, affairs/infidelity, compulsive sexual behaviors, etc.). David educates listeners on what these behaviors actually are, removing stigma from it as his work is about understanding the person underneath…
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In this episode we welcome Dr. David Fawcett, a clinical social worker, sex therapist and two-time author specializing in chemsex and problematic sexualized drug use. Often a misunderstood form of suffering, David disentangles the complexities of these intertwined behaviors. With effective clinical strategies and decades of experience, David helps …
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Today on the podcast I discuss Infidelity, Betrayal Trauma and Self-Compassion with frequent guest clinician and trauma expert Michael Webb. For decades it's been known that shameful people do shameful things and commit heinously shameful acts. But how do we heal the shame while also owning our behavior and destructive choices as unfaithful spouses…
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Today’s episode focuses on Chapter Four of Andrew’s workbook as we explore the healthier side of narcissism, other-centeredness, generosity of spirit as well as longing and belonging. Beneath narcissism is broken heartedness so tune in to understand the deeper healing and trajectory from this complicated survival strategy.…
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In this episode we welcome Arnold McCuller, interventionist and recovery coach based in Southern California. Learn about his extensive career working as a professional vocalist which has taken a later-in-life shift toward interventions for those in the entertainment industry and beyond. Arnold can be reached at www.arnoldmcculler.com. Music credit:…
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EP 23: Expert Interview with Tyler Patrick: How and Why Did We Become So Avoidant in our Relationships?
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Are you an avoidant? Are you married to one? If you're married to an avoidant, you're probably frustrated as all get out with them, unless you too are an avoidant? If you're an avoidant you might be wondering what all the fuss is about and why is everyone making such a big deal about it? So what, you avoid conflict and shy away from confrontation a…
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EP 22: Understanding the Inner Child, Infidelity & Problematic Sexual Behaviors with Eddie Capparucci PhD
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For decades the 'inner child' has been a topic of confusion and misunderstanding as it relates to infidelity, problematic sexual behaviors and restoring both marriages and individuals. What actually is the inner child? Can I, an unfaithful, blame my inner child for my choices and affair(s)? Don't I have power over my own choices? Is the 'inner chil…
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EP 21: Why the Betrayed and Unfaithful Need to Know 'The Why' of the Affair: Interview with an Expert
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Understanding 'the why' of the affair is vital for a variety of reasons including but not limited to relapse prevention, safety for the betrayed and long term healing for both parties. If an unfaithful doesn't know why they had an affair or acted our, how can they expect to prevent it from happening again in the future? How can they assure their pa…
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EP 20: Tyler Patrick Discusses How to Help the Unfaithful Develop Shame Resilience After Infidelity
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Today on the podcast you'll meet Tyler Patrick who is a licensed marriage and family therapist. Tyler shares his down to earth insight into how the unfaithful spouse can develop what he calls 'shame resilience.' Without the ability for the unfaithful to be resilient to shame, we'll continue to make every situation and conversation about us instead …
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Have you ever wondered how to establish and keep your boundaries up after infidelity? What about when the betrayed struggles with abandonment or low self worth? How do they even determine what boundaries they need to set in the first place? Today you'll hear a no nonsense, heart to heart talk from expert clinician and survivor of infidelity, Sharon…
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EP 18: Dr. Jill Manning: 5 Pillars of Maturity for Those Trying to Heal from Infidelity or Addiction
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Dr. Jill manning is quickly becoming a regular on Sam's Healing Podcast, encouraging both the unfaithful and the betrayed to find a new level of emotional maturity. While betrayal trauma can feel insurmountable, it's clearly not due to the insight and direction and hope that we can heal from the wisdom of Dr. Manning. While last time we discussed f…
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EP 17: Author John Lee Discusses Growing Yourself Back Up and How to Better Show Up for our Partner
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Today you'll meet a great friend and hero of mine, author John Lee. Author of over 25 books, and known therapist to therapists, John Lee has been a guest on Oprah, The View, 20/20, PBS and Barbara Walters. The father of Regression one might say, shares his poignant insight into how we regress in life and how to grow ourselves back up. "Regression i…
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EP 16: Dr. Jill Manning Shares 5 Markers of Emotional Immaturity that Help Explain Infidelity and Affairs
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Today you'll meet Dr. Jill Manning who shares five key markers of emotional immaturity that help explain why we have affairs and develop addictions. An expert in her own right but compassionate to the wounds of both the betrayed and the unfaithful, Dr. Manning helps explain what emotional immaturity looks like in the unfaithful and how they can tak…
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EP 15: Dr. Matthew Hedelius Discusses Desire, Infidelity & and Erectile Dysfunction in Relationships
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Should a couple explore novelty in their sexuality? What about if that marriage has been affected by infidelity or addiction? If you're dealing with erectile dysfunction, what steps can you take practically to help bring about healing, change and mutual fulfillment? It's these types of questions that require an expert's protocol. Dr. Matthew Hedeli…
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Today you'll meet Jordan, a great friend and survivor of infidelity. The nuances to the betrayed male story are different, yet not worse nor better than the betrayed female. They are however, very challenging. It's my opinion betrayed males all over the world continue to feel ostracized and embarrassed, feeling as though they are some sort of albat…
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EP 13: Interview with Dr. Jake Porter: Helping the Betrayed Deal with a Narcissistic Partner
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Today I welcome back Dr. Jake Porter into the podcast to discuss how the betrayed partner can deal with an unfaithful, narcissistic spouse while trying to save a marriage. It's a given that narcissism alone can be difficult to maneuver but coupled with infidelity and/or addiction and it can seem absolutely insurmountable. The good news is, while it…
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EP 12: Can You Get Your Life Back After Infidelity and Betrayal? Interview with an Expert Tammy Gustafson
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Have you ever wondered if you can get your life back after infidelity or addiction? Maybe you feel, at this moment, there's no way in hell you could get your life back and you'll never make it through this awful chapter of your life? It's a normal belief that we'll never be the same again, until we meet someone who is on the other side of the awful…
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EP 11: Dr. Matthew Hedelius Discusses Infidelity, Addiction and Regulating our Central Nervous System
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Today I'm joined by expert clinician Dr. Matthew Hedelius who specializes in infidelity, addiction and problematic sexual behaviors. While the director of Paradise Creek Recovery Center, Dr. Hedelius also provides both practical and multilayered insight into how to care for partners of those who struggle with infidelity and addiction. With a delica…
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EP 10: Infidelity, Victimization and How the Betrayed Can Create Their Own Safety in Recovery Work with James Annear
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Have you ever felt like you were the victim in your marriage or relationship? Maybe you've even felt like a victim all your life? It's also possible you've felt like your partner continually reverts back to a victim mindset in your situation? I wonder if they do it not just because they are a betrayed partner, but perhaps something in their childho…
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Today you'll meet a new friend, Dr. Jake Porter who shares insight into how to find meaning amidst the rubble of our own choices or our partner's after infidelity or addiction. Not only an expert in recovery work, Dr. Porter has experienced his own pain and heartbreak which provides a framework of compassion, insight and expert help for those looki…
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EP 8: The Sacrificing of Our Authenticity As We Heal from Infidelity or Addiction with Michael Webb
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Today I'm joined once again by my great friend, mentor and colleague Michael Webb. I hope you'll join us today as we participate in fascinating discussion on how we sacrifice, if not abandon ourselves in the pursuit of closeness, oneness and hopeful restoration with our partner. The difficulty in this is we run the chance of losing ourselves, yet g…
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Today you'll hear from one of our favorite guests, a fan favorite and expert clinician, Amanda Asproni. Not only an expert in dealing with infidelity, addiction, and various forms of trauma, she's also a survivor of infidelity, trauma and narcissistic abuse. I ask her the tough questions today as she discusses how various forms of trauma can make h…
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EP 6: Was I the Reason My Spouse Cheated? Was I Not Enough? with James Annear & Sharon Rinearson
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Today I welcome back in podcast regulars, James and Sharon to discuss why partners cheat in relationships. It's a common burden the betrayed carry: that somehow they are the reason their spouse or partner cheated and they were not enough. Since they are then are responsible for their partner's cheating, they cannot draw boundaries, have hard expect…
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Today, a great friend of mine and an expert clinician, James Annear, discusses intimacy avoidance, childhood trauma, and infidelity. While digging deep into his own training and education James also shares masterful insight from personal experience with his own trauma and avoidance. Have you ever wondered why your spouse, particularly the unfaithfu…
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EP 4: 7 Keys to Healing and Preventing Childhood Trauma in Our Kids and Ourselves with Tom Gagliano
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Today you'll hear from developmental trauma expert Tom Gagliano on how to create safety for our kids. What if we could help our kids heal from trauma? What if we could prevent our kids from owning what they were never intended to own? From shame to humiliation to unnecessary guilt, what if we could spare our kids from our own baggage and trauma whi…
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EP 3: Meet Jake: A Former Unfaithful and Betrayed Spouse Healing from Infidelity and Betrayal Trauma
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Today you'll meet a friend and survivor of both his own infidelity and his wife's. From depression to anxiety, to hopelessness and despair, Jake shares his own private hell for those who feel like they're alone in their suffering. While he and his family are on the upswing doing great, their story takes an awful turn early on in recovery and you'll…
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Send us a text Behind The Smile by John Sternfels and Melissa Roberts is a real-life story of how one of John's clients, Melissa Roberts, overcame the horrors of being abused, traumatized, and sexually betrayed. As a result, Melissa experienced many psychological complexities, often behind a facade of happiness. The book is designed to offer reader…
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Dr. Matthew Zakreski (known as “Dr. Matt”) is a seasoned clinical psychologist and professional speaker renowned for his expertise in serving neurodivergent individuals (people with different brains such as gifted, ADHD, Autism, and dyslexia). Passionate about reducing stigma surrounding neurodiversity, Dr. Matt is driven by his mission to promote …
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Today we welcome Jean Campbell, the CEO of Action Institute of California to talk with us about psychodrama, sociometry, resourcing, and Somatic Experiencing—all in the context of compulsive sexual behavior, addictions in general as well as trauma. With 30 years of expertise, Jean brings together groups of people to heal from their broken-heartedne…
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In this episode we examine Chapter Three of Andrew’s workbook as we encourage curiosity and non-judgment about shame. Although shame never goes away entirely, you can respond to it differently. In this discussion we explore the following: building shame resiliency, taming the inner critic and practicing mindful self-compassion. Tune in to see how s…
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Send us a text In this podcast, counselor and author, John Sternfels examines the complexities of gender identity and gender dysphoria in children and adolescents. John discusses from a Christian perspective, how to discuss this complex topic with children in a sensitive and informed manner. Talking to children who struggle with gender identity and…
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On today’s episode we warmly welcome back clinical psychologist Joni Lavick, who is a seasoned expert on attachment theory and its applications. In this informative conversation we cover the following: the history of attachment theory, misconceptions, how to understand your own patterns, and the correlation between attachment strategies and addicti…
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Send us a text A Comprehensive Examination of Mental Health Introduction Mental health encompasses emotional, psychological, and social well-being, influencing how individuals think, feel, and act. It affects daily functioning, relationships, and physical health. Mental health is not merely the absence of mental illness but also involves the presen…
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Grief and loss is often overlooked or avoided in our society. Andrew and Sue take this opportunity to delve into this often-misunderstood topic of grief and loss and its implications on long-term recovery from sexual compulsivity. Andrew shares a “memoir snapshot” as well as specific practices to consider using toward living more peacefully and ope…
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CW: suicidality Ben Greene (he/him) is transgender man, author, advocate, & public speaker. He was in Charlotte to speak at the PFLAG Charlotte Pride & Purpose Gala, so he and Juliet got to record this episode live at Queen City Podcast Network! Ben says he's in the business of "being the person I needed when I was younger." He shares his coming ou…
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In this intimate conversation, Jen Davis takes us on a journey that most of us avoid. From her own transformative experiences with grief, Jen shares the curiosity, the wonder and the ultimate path to living a fuller life. Through a lens of self-compassion, honesty and forgiveness we explore the limitless possibilities and challenges that go along w…
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Send us a text In this episode, Patrick Eiler's LPC, CSAT talks about self-image and self-definition. Self-image and self-definition are two facets of identity that significantly shape how individuals perceive themselves and interact with the world around them. While they are interconnected, they represent distinct aspects of one's self-concept. Se…
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Today’s episode featuring Andrew and Sue focuses on Emotional Resilience, the lead chapter of Andrew’s workbook. In the original book, the first chapter explored Emotional Sobriety, but the word resilience is more aligned with Andrew’s current focus on regulating the nervous system. This episode kicks off a monthly spotlight on each workbook chapte…
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Today’s episode is Sexual Recovery: From a Nightmare to a Love Story. We welcome Steve Wolt, founder of Valor Recovery, a peer-based recovery coaching and support system to help men overcome porn abuse, sexual compulsivity and intimacy challenges. By discussing the promises of sexual recovery, Steve offers hope and inspiration to his clients and ou…
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Send us a text In this episode, I will dive into the core of human connection, exploring the transformative power of understanding, compassion, and shared emotions through empathy. Empathy, often hailed as the glue that binds us together, is more than just a buzzword. It's the force that bridges gaps, dismantles barriers, and fosters a sense of uni…
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Send us a text The concept of healthy sex can be explored through a multidimensional lens that takes into account various aspects of human well-being. The 12-dimension model provides a comprehensive framework to understand and promote a holistic approach to sexual health. By acknowledging and nurturing each dimension of this model, individuals and …
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Andrew’s latest release The It’s Not About the Sex Workbook: Moving from Isolation to Intimacy after Sexual Compulsivity (Routledge Press, 2024) is now available for purchase on Amazon, and he and Sue wanted to take this opportunity to explore Andrew’s journey with his three books from 2004 to 2024. Andrew shares the opportunities and challenges th…
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Send us a text In this episode, counselor and author John Sternfels discusses the topic of fear. Fear, an emotion deeply embedded in the human experience, has been a subject of fascination, analysis, and debate throughout history. As a multifaceted phenomenon, fear touches upon various aspects of our lives, influencing our decisions, shaping our pe…
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Send us a text In this episode, counselor and author John Sternfels discusses Toxic shame. Toxic shame is a pervasive and enduring form of shame that can significantly impact one's quality of life. It is consciously transferred by means of shaming rules and can be deeply ingrained in one's sense of self, leading to constant exposure of the failure …
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In this episode, Juliet chats with Summer Baruth, an industrial and organizational psychologist who is a global leader in human resources. Summer's passion is in making the uncomfortable comfortable and meeting people where they are to help them see things differently. In this episode, Juliet & Summer get into the real real about helping others fee…
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Amber is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional in the state of New Jersey. She is a therapist, an advocate, a feeler, and a flawed human and she's no stranger to anxiety. In this episode, Amber and Juliet talk about their definitions of anxiety, various manifestations of anxiety, and how we know it's time to t…
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Send us a text In this episode, counselor and author John Sternfels discusses Marriage, Now What? Marriage, Now What? encapsulates the sentiment many couples experience after the initial excitement of marriage settles. It's a reflective phase where partners may ponder the direction of their relationship. This question invites couples to embrace the…
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Send us a text In this episode, counselor and author John Sternfels discusses children and social media. Children and social media have become inseparable in today's digital age. As technology advances, more kids are gaining access to various social media platforms at increasingly younger ages. While social media offers opportunities for communicat…
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At this time of unrest in the world, it’s even more important to focus our attention on lovingkindness toward self and others. Adapted from a meditation developed by the Mindfulness Awareness Research Center (MARC) at UCLA, this timely exercise provides an opportunity to carve out some time to cultivate the love and kindness within.…
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Send us a text In this episode, counselor and author John Sternfels discusses Polygraphs, also known as lie detectors. Polygraphs are instruments used to measure physiological responses associated with truthfulness or deception. The primary purpose of a polygraph test is to assess whether a person is being truthful or deceptive in their responses t…
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