Episode 72: Why We Choose To Stay Stuck

To Help You Heal

Episode Summary: Welcome back to To Help You Heal! This week, I'm exploring why so many of us feel "stuck" in different areas of life—whether it's in relationships, careers, or even our daily habits. With the end of the year fast approaching, I've been reflecting on how this time can bring a sense of urgency to go after the goals we set in January. In this episode, I'll unpack the psychological and emotional reasons that keep us rooted in situations that may not serve us, and I'll also share practical tips to help break free from these cycles.

Key Topics Discussed:

• Understanding Why We Stay Stuck: I explore common reasons we don't move forward—fear of the unknown, comfort in routine, self-doubt, and even societal pressures. These factors often hold us in familiar, sometimes unfulfilling, cycles.
• Our Brain's Resistance to Change: I discuss why our brains resist change, sticking to familiar patterns that conserve energy. Understanding this resistance can help us make choices that support growth rather than staying in what feels "safe."
• The Real Cost of Staying Stuck: Stagnation isn't without cost, and I'm sharing some ways it can impact us—like stress, low self-esteem, missed opportunities, and even strained relationships. Because sometimes we have to see the cost of staying stuck.
• How to Start Moving Forward: I offer practical steps to embrace change, including journaling, visualizing success, taking consistent small actions, and seeking support through accountability. I also explain the importance of challenging self-limiting beliefs as a foundation for growth.

Takeaway Reflection: Where in your life do you feel stuck? As you listen, I encourage you to think of one change you'd like to make before the year ends. Remember, it's about one small step at a time, and finding someone to help hold you accountable can make a real difference.

Actionable Steps:

1. Journal Your Thoughts: Reflect on why you might feel stuck, and identify any hidden fears or patterns.
2. Visualize Success: Take time to imagine the change you want and the impact it will bring.
3. Take One Small Step: Focus on one small, actionable step toward change.
4. Challenge Negative Beliefs: Replace self-doubt with reminders of past achievements and growth.
5. Find a Support Partner: Partner with someone who can support your progress and help you stay accountable.

Quotes to Remember:

• "Perspective is everything. If we keep telling ourselves we're not good enough, we'll find the evidence to back that up."
• "What's the cost of staying stuck versus the benefit of change? Sometimes understanding the cost is the motivation we need."

Tune In Next Week! Join me next week as we continue to pursue personal growth and healing. November is the perfect month to reflect, refocus, and commit to making the changes we've put off this year!