SGR 088: Why Asking Your Partner How They’re Doing is Extra Important Right Now

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When was the last time you asked your partner how they were doing? I mean really took the time, distraction-free, to sit, look them in the eye, and asked.

My guess is - probably not recently enough.

This conversation should be happening daily. Every day, you and your partner should be sitting down for 15 to 20 minutes to check in with one another.

How are you feeling?

What’s your biggest stressor right now?

Is there anything I can do to help you with that?

This simple practice has a number of benefits, like:

Increased emotional intimacy

Feeling supported by your partner

Knowing what’s really going on in your partner’s inner world

Giving benefit of the doubt easily because you have a more accurate context for your partner’s words and actions

Reduced stress

Deposits in the emotional bank account

Showing up for this daily check-in is important all the time, but now, especially, with the increased stress and anxiety many of us are experiencing it’s even more crucial.

In this week’s episode, we’re talking about the importance of doing a daily check-in with your partner, exactly how to approach it, and strategies for troubleshooting the common challenges. If you haven’t been doing this practice and you’d like to learn more, be sure to check it out.