231. Move Beyond Over Responsibility, Over Functioning, Overwhelm, and Overbusy

The Mindful Healers Podcast with Dr. Jessie Mahoney and Dr. Ni-Cheng Liang

Women and women physicians in particular are so high functioning and capable, we often take on everything as our responsibility and our job.

Other people and larger systems benefit when we do this in the short-term. No one benefits in the long-term.

We end up exhausted and depleted and overwhelmed, overbusy, overcommitted, and overfunctioning.

When you stop holding onto unreasonable expectations of yourself and others and let go of what’s not yours to hold, the noise quiets and the OVER everything goes away.

Listen to learn about a life changing practice of clarifying what is actually your job in every one of your roles.

Learn how to discern what is your job, what is not your job and the importance of word choice.

What is not your job?

• Keeping everyone happy and comfortable

• Make people feel a certain way

• Protecting people

• Fixing all broken things

• Judging others

• Owning other peoples challenges or outcomes

• Changing anyone's behavior

• Convincing people

What is your job?

• Loving

• Modeling

• Showing

• Supporting

• Partnering

• Listening

• Being aware

• Facilitating

• Advising

• Connecting

• Inspiring

• Teaching

• Knowing

Our jobs as leaders and physicians add additional nuances to the discussion.

• Awareness

• Knowledge

• Diagnosing

• Educating

• Recommending

• Being present

Come to mind immediately. Defending, fixing, and changing the behavior of others is not our job. Neither is meeting the expectations of our patients or healthcare systems. Even though filling in for all the gaps in the system would be an impossible job, many of us take this on as our job as well.

Join me for a live Curious About Coaching Workshops on January 7th 530 pacific to dive into this exercise more fully.

If you struggle with issues such as over responsibility, overwhelmed, over functioning and over committing, you must join me in Ongoing Presence or Transition Well for Small Group Coaching in Spring 2025.

Both programs start in January and they are a not to be missed opportunity to live a life of clarity and meaning without all overwhelm, busy, overresponsibility and overfunctioning. You can earn up to 12 units of CME as well.

Find Peace presence and Purpose where you are - https://www.jessiemahoneymd.com/ongoing-presence

Move Forward in Alignment - https://www.jessiemahoneymd.com/transition-well

Move beyond consuming this amazing podcast. True change happens when you work with us - virtually and/or in-person.

Coach with Jessie - 1:1, in topic-focused small groups, or at a retreat. www.jessiemahoneymd.com

Work with both of us in person at The Mindful Healers Annual Retreat www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreats

Hire one or both of us to speak or lead a workshop on any topic covered in the Mindful Healers Podcast. We also create team retreats, teach yoga, and offer experiential mindfulness for teams, groups, grand rounds, institutions, and conferences.

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*Nothing shared in the Mindful Healers Podcast is medical advice.

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