Rethinking Perfectionism: what kind are you? Katherine Morgan Schafler

Reinvention Room with Allison Hare

Where are my fellow control freaks?

Such an interesting and way more helpful perspective to rethink and redefine perfectionism. You know when you read a book and it’s so groundbreaking and helpful, you can’t help but tell all your friends, post about it? Well, I was the recipient of essentially being attacked on all sides that I needed to read this award-winning book, The Perfectionists’ Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler. Katherine is a seasoned psychotherapist and former in-house therapist for Google, with a BA in psychology from Berkeley and 2 masters from Columbia University and I’ve got her incredibly refreshing and game-changing approach broken down today. We talk about self-punishment vs. discipline. We talk about adaptive and maladaptive perfectionism and why restoration and resting feels like failure to perfectionists - and my favorite, control vs. power. I really am super excited for you to hear it and can't wait to hear what type of perfectionist are you!

Timestamps:

• [00:10:01] Redefining Perfectionism
• [00:13:14] Gender bias in language.
• [00:17:22] Perfectionism and power seeking.
• [00:23:10] Five types of perfectionism.
• [00:27:21] Parisian Perfectionists and Relationships.
• [00:31:26] Knowing your type of perfectionism and collaborating with others
• [00:34:10] Self-worth and self-esteem.
• [00:39:03] Rethinking self-punishment and discipline.
• [00:42:14] Emotional education and self-compassion.
• [00:50:07] Resisting rest and restoration
• [00:54:12] Restoring and emptying out.
• [00:58:37] The Power of Play.
• [01:02:07] Presence and Power.
• [01:07:37] Gray rocking technique

Katherine Morgan Schafler - Guest Links:

The Perfectionists Guide to Losing Control - A Path to Peace and Power

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Katherine Morgan Schafler - IG

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