Dealing With Darkness: Unseen, Unheard & Unspoken With Louis Weinstock

Becoming Unapologetically Me with Helen Norbury

Becoming Unapologetically Me is the podcast for people who know there is more stuck inside them and they want to find a way to release it.

Louis Weinstock is a psychotherapist who works with children and the child inside us all. He helps people find a light in the darkness – in the things that are unseen, unheard and unspoken. For over 20 years, he has expertly guided children and grown-ups through some of the toughest challenges life can throw at us – loss, trauma, divorce, burnout and breakdowns.

He is also co-founder of Apart of Me, a multi-award-winning charity that helps young people transform their grief into compassion. His work has been featured on the BBC, ITV, and in the Guardian newspaper. He lives in Manchester with his wife and daughter.

In this episode, Helen and Louis talk openly and from the heart about the mental health crisis in children and those who care for them. Louis shares anecdotes and examples from his recently published book “How the World is Making our Children Mad - and What to Do About It”

Helen and Louis talk about a wide variety of subjects, before Louis reads in such a heartfelt way, the opening page of his book.

The subject of learned helplessness is discussed, in the context of how different this is to when Louis’ daughter showed resilience when learning to walk. When we feel a lack of safety, it triggers our nervous system to learned helplessness. Seeking safety and connection are two key areas in neuroception, as discussed by Stephen Porges; the absence of which compounds trauma.

As always, this episode draws on the practical ways we can support the children in our lives (including our own inner child) to build resilience, and Louis shares some of the ways he personally is able to journey towards radical self-care and how he tunes into what his body needs in any moment.

Key Takeaways

• It is so important for adults to heal themselves - you can’t give to children what you have not yet accessed yourself
• Adversity becomes trauma when you add loneliness
• We all have an inner drive for mastery. This is connected to our pleasure signals.
• “In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, in the expert’s there are few” - Shunryu Suzuki
• Humans have an innate ability to heal from trauma; it is our family, social and cultural conditioning that can get in the way of this

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