My Wife Has MS And Things Are Ruogh

Sam Sylk Show

Dear Sam, A little over two years ago my wife was diagnosed with MS. The first year she handled it pretty well with only a few minor adjustments to our daily life. The past year has been not as great, and while I understand she is going to have her good days and bad days, it been more bad the past few months. I try my best to make sure I do all I can for her; I take care of all of the household chores like cleaning, dishes, laundry, cooking and outside yard while also making sure the kids are taken care of. Fatigue is one of the things that her MS really has hit her hard with so I even try to give her time to herself so she can nap or just relax. However, she has become very snippy and angry all the time at the kids and me. It’s frustrating as I feel I’m always walking on eggshells afraid if I say something wrong or do a chore not the way she would, than she flips out. The kids often question why mommy is always yelling at everyone. I have spoken to my wife about this and she says she is sorry and will try to relax and not yell at us, but that only lasts a day or so. It’s like she’s angry at the world that she has MS, but the thing is she is only mean to us. She goes with friends and her sisters and treats all of them great and then comes home and is distant towards the kids and me. Honestly, she is pushing us away, and I find it more fun to do things when it’s just me with the kids. Her MS has changed her and I don’t expect her to be perfect by any means — I just don’t get why she is now so different towards her own family who would do anything to help her. Our sex life used to be amazing and overall it’s still good, but I often feel she just does it to please me. While I completely understand our lives will always be different than how they were before her MS, I feel like she is allowing the MS to take over her life. I will never know the pain she deals with daily, but I do know a lot of people live good lives with MS. We are still young, in our 30’s and I love her dearly, but I fear that if the kids and I have to deal with years and years of her taking her emotions out on us, it will only drive us away. Do you have any advice?