#1159 - The Monthly Date That Changes Everything

Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

One-on-one time transforms parent-child relationships, but finding that time can seem impossible. Discover the revolutionary monthly date system that's helping parents create deeper connections with each child—and why being truly present matters more than what you actually do together.

Key Points:

• Monthly one-on-one dates based on birth date
• Importance of intentional planning vs spontaneous moments
• Value of side-by-side conversations
• Impact of being fully present vs autopilot parenting
• How structured time leads to deeper conversations

Quote of the Episode: "The definition of love is bearing witness to one another's lives."

Key Insights:

• Advance planning makes experiences more meaningful
• Side-by-side activities encourage natural conversation
• Removing distractions deepens connection
• Multiple possible futures reduce anxiety about paths
• Intentional time creates space for vulnerable conversations

Resources Mentioned:

• Laura King's research on "best possible future self"
• Monthly birthday date system concept
• Broaden perspectives on career/life paths
• Calendar blocking for intentional connection

Action Steps for Parents:

1. Schedule Monthly Dates:
• Mark each child's birth date on calendar
• Plan activities in advance
• Make them non-negotiable appointments
• Customise for each child's interests
2. Create Quality Experiences:
• Remove distractions (phones, etc.)
• Choose side-by-side activities
• Allow natural conversation flow
• Make it special but not elaborate
3. Be Fully Present:
• Practice active listening
• Avoid problem-solving mode
• Focus on connection over correction
• Create space for deeper sharing

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.