Ep#1 – Species of Hope – w/Emily Crotteau

Any Thoughts On

In the inaugural episode of Any Thoughts On, the show where advisors, mentors and practitioners discuss their craft, Tee welcomes Emily Crotteau to the show. Emily moonlights as a body work specialist and is one of Tee's favorite coaches currently practicing.

Emily and Tee trade thoughts on two primary questions:

1) How can you know whether your work with a given practitioner (coach, therapist, etc.) is going well?

2) How much does it make sense to pay for something like coaching and/or therapy?

Show highlights below:

– 0:00 - 6:54 – Introduction

– 7:22 – How do you know a coaching relationship is going well? Tee introduces a three-point mental model to help determine whether your work with a given practitioner is going well:

• 1) Optimism/hope – do I feel like there's a reasonable chance that I can achieve what I want from this based on the experience(s) thus far? (This can include vibe/rapport etc.)
• 2) Emotional resonance – was the experience moving for me in a noticeable way?
• 3) Reasonable expectations and/or progression – do I have a justified outside- or inside-view (set of) reason(s) to continue with this?

– 13:50 – Calibrating your inside view with experience

– 31:00 – Gold standard for emotional resonance and durability of breakthroughs

– 42:03 – Intuition is a source of truth, not the source of truth

– 50:40 – Social interpretations of good behaviors & gender dynamics

– 59:51 – Reasonable expectations and the importance of meta-models

– 01:04:51 – How much does it make sense to pay for something like coaching and/or therapy?

– 01:08:24 – Factoring in the lifestyle and occupational constraints of the coach

– 01:16:45 – Mind games related to pay rates

– 01:22:55 – Societal underinvestment in role models

– 01:25:00 – Bounties on solving major psychological issues