Minisode Advice Segment - Hating your friend's bf, how to start a podcast, and friendship breakups ft. Shannon of @fluentlyforward

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• Christina - I want to start a podcast but am nervous. I’ve been thinking about it for a year. Would love your advice for taking the plunge. Xoxoxo

• Anon pls! First off, love the pod! Obsessed with your insta. Manifesting MAJOR fame for you in 2023 😆. I need advice! One of my close friends has changed so much since dating her fiancé. When they started dating she asked if we could include him more in our friend group because he has very few friends. He’s a little annoying but overall a nice guy. Now that we’ve started to include him it’s impossible to get together without him. She won’t even hang with the girls unless he can tag along. They argue constantly and have caused multiple scenes in public. I’ve started to make excuses to avoid being In public with them because I can’t take the embarrassment. It seems like anyone who says something about it gets cut off and we’ve all noticed this mean streak in her ever since they’ve been together. He’s got his issues too and definitely instigates some of the arguing. We’ve caught her in multiple lies/embellishments about their relationship. She’s so focused on appearing to be the perfect happy couple. I have a pit in my stomach watching this all happen. I realize a lot of this toxicity is on her but I feel like a horrible friend for holding my tongue. I hate getting involved in other peoples relationships and I wouldn’t even consider it except she is one of my closest friends. I feel like if I say something I’ll be next on the chopping block and it will ripple through our friend group . If you have any advice I’d appreciate it so much!!

• How do you essentially end a friendship when nothing bad has happened between you guys? I just don’t feel the same vibe anymore and keep turning down advances to hang out and it’s making me feel like a bitch. Nothing explosive happened and I don’t have any animosity towards her, but I’m having trouble setting boundaries without feeling horrible. She’s a great person I just don’t think we vibe well together anymore, but we see each other weekly for school. Please help lol. Lying about being busy has been working but I just feel horrible. We’re just not compatible as friends. We’re 24-25 in age if that helps at all.

Shannon’s blog post: https://www.fluentlyforward.com/home4/how-to-effectively-tell-your-best-friend-that-her-boyfriend-isnt-good-for-her