We go DEEP on the Room to Grow™ Podcast. Curiously exploring relationships, connection, and the nuances and complexities of the human experience, every episode combines a unique blend of wisdom & humour along with rare levels of openness & honesty. Join host/founder Emily Gough, a relationship coach, author & speaker, as we explore how to take ownership of your life, revolutionize your relationship to yourself and learn to communicate while creating thriving connections with others. With bot ...
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399. Aftermath of Hurricane Helene: Navigating Natural Disaster as a Couple with Kelly Gardner
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I certainly never expected to be coming to you with an episode about living through a devastating natural disaster and yet, here we are. Joining me is my beloved partner Kelly Gardner, a relationship coach and men's work facilitator, as we come to you recording from Kelly's childhood bedroom after evacuating from Asheville, North Carolina in the wa…
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It’s often said that fear is simply “the unknown.” But the unknown is a void - it hasn’t happened yet, therefore, we can’t fear what doesn’t exist. Instead, fear is us projecting past experiences or other people's stories of what we think might go wrong into the future. Today, I’m going to share a different way to approach the “the unknown” in a wa…
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If we don’t properly heal wounds of our past, they can easily get carried into our future relationships and show up, unprovoked. These can be traumas from childhood, school, past relationships etc., that activate our inner defences and, inadvertently, shield us from opening up to the love, joy and happiness of our new relationships - both with our …
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After a very unintentional break, this is the first new podcast episode I’ve released in four months. And I want to give some insight into why. Firstly, I want to let you know that we are back with weekly episodes moving forward, and I'm very excited about it! I love the podcast so much. There is a very healing quality to it for me personally, just…
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REGISTER NOW: “Your Grown A$& Woman Era” 12-week group program (starts May 15, 2024) I’ve never released an episode like this before. Today, you’re going to hear the first-hand story of one of my private coaching clients, Melissa. Melissa has generously agreed to talk intimately about our six months working together as she worked to overcome the sh…
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394. Balancing Personal Growth While In A Relationship (My Guest Appearance on “Full Frontal Living” with Lisa Carpenter)
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The balance of personal growth and contributing to a thriving romantic relationship is all about being comfortable in your own skin, without seeking external validation, yet embracing our innate need for connection. It’s independence and interdependence…but not co-dependence. I’m such a believer in this that I co-wrote an entire book about it calle…
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When it comes to our personal growth and development, many people get caught in a trap of “doing” instead of “being.” Doing is when we learn the things, do the homework, and then force our actions based on doing exactly what we think we’re expected to…even if it feels inauthentic. But in order for the work to actually work, we have to embody it. We…
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When we talk about how safe and secure we feel with someone we’re in a relationship with - romantic or other - we’re talking about emotional intimacy. It’s that deep connection we create and maintain with the truest version of both they and ourselves. Today, I'm going to list 16 surprising signs of true emotional intimacy. Surprising because they i…
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391. Repairing Conflict in Your Relationship with Kelly Gardner
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Conflict is going to happen in a healthy relationship. And more often than not, conflict starts with something laughably small - from doing dishes, to making food, and even how to decoratively light a podcast. But underneath the menial cause of conflict always lies a much deeper need that isn’t being met. I’m joined on this episode by my partner, K…
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Today, I am so thrilled to announce the release of my first book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-authored with my dear friend, Dr. Jade Teta. It's all about creating growth-oriented relationships, rather than getting caught in the trap of “you complete me” and relying on other people, particula…
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389. Life Is Full of Uncertainty, But You’re Gonna Be OK with Lisa Carpenter
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Fear is basically uncertainty. It’s having no idea or proof of our own capability to handle the unknown. So how do we learn to overcome fear and simply trust ourselves that we have everything we need to handle any uncertainty? That’s where coaches like Lisa Carpenter come in. Lisa Carpenter is a remarkable coach who has changed my life in so many w…
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When we overthink our emotions, we under-feel them. This can have major consequences on both our relationships and our personal growth. Too often when faced with a negative or traumatic emotion, we intellectualize how we are feeling instead of allowing ourselves to accept, allow and feel it. And by suppressing the bad stuff, we fail to fully learn …
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387. Coaching Call: Break Down Your Walls and Finally Let Them In
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Something new on the Room To Grow™ podcast for 2024: allowing you into some of my real life, unedited coaching calls with clients. We all share the same challenges and questions in our relationships, and my hope is that by inviting you into these incredible sessions, you’ll find answers and inspiration to integrate into your own situation. It’s als…
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It’s time to start fighting unreasonably hard for the life you want. I want this first episode of the New Year to remind you that waiting for things to feel easier, clearer and less scary are preventing you from taking the first messy, but critical steps in the right direction. Even if you don’t have the end figured out, sitting around hoping every…
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The most dangerous thing you can possess is self worth. Because from self worth comes freedom and empowerment to choose exactly what and who you want in your life. But because we live in a world that teaches us to look outside of ourselves for validation, accolades, approval, self-worth can be a major struggle. But when we stop auditioning for the …
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384. Captain Save-A-Hoe & Queen Change-A-Dick: Lifelong Patterns That Harm Our Relationships with Kelly Gardner
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It’s tempting to want to play the role of “superhero” in a relationship - the guardian, the savior, the teacher, or the protector. But over-prioritizing their needs over your own often has a villainous effect on a healthy relationship. Because if all of your focus is on their safety, wellbeing and nurturing, you then neglect what’s more important -…
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I'm practicing something that's very uncomfortable for me: asking for what I need. Maybe you can relate. It's scary, because when we ask for something, it can bring up all kinds of issues for us. Old stories from childhood. Risk of judgement, rejection or abandonment. It's something I've spent most of my life avoiding, and instead convincing myself…
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The only thing more painful than brutal honesty is dishonesty. If we’re holding in our true emotions to avoid tough conversations, judgment or rocking the boat, we’re actually hurting our relationship more than helping it. Expressing how you are feeling is where trust is built and where relationships thrive. If you’re not being truly honest in your…
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Nicole Walters has built an empire from virtually nothing. From growing up in poverty, to adopting 3 children off the street, creating a multi-million dollar business, a TV show, podcast and now the release of her new book “Nothing Is Missing: A Memoir Of Living Boldly” she’s helped to inspire others by teaching everyday people how to own their pow…
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The next time you find yourself feeling down, lost, full of anxiety or just energetically off, it’s time to get back to the basics and reconnect with yourself. This episode covers 6 key questions to ask the next time you just don’t feel like yourself: Are you laughing? Are you sleeping? Are you moving? Are you nourished? Are you creating? What are …
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379. Accepting and Embracing ADHD in a Relationship with Aaron Bailey
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From forgetting simple household chores to getting distracted during sex, adult ADHD can have a tremendous impact on a relationship. Today, we’re talking with ADHD Life Coach, Aaron Bailey about the frustrations, workarounds and ways of building a strong relationship with someone with ADHD. In some ways, a partner can feel more like a parent. But t…
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When it comes to confidence, we can too often sit in a state of waiting - waiting for something to magically happen or shift to finally get over our fears and anxieties. But confidence is something that has to be built, honed and practiced. And the only way to practice is to simply do the thing for the first time, no matter how scary. Today we’re t…
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377. Hope After Heartbreak: Our Love Story with Kelly Gardner
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My guest on this episode is my partner, Kelly Gardner. He and I met when he was a guest on this podcast (Episode #359 “Building A Community Of Better & More Present Fathers” With Kelly Gardner) talking about his work as a Personal Growth Coach and Men’s Group Facilitator. At the time, it was just an interview. But, things quickly changed, and I can…
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When we try to force a relationship with someone who isn’t a good fit, it’s time to do some serious work on our own self-worth. People often end up “chasing” the same type over and over, hoping they’ll uncover something about ourselves we just aren’t seeing. But to have a healthy relationship with someone else, we first need to recognize our own in…
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Trust is like the oxygen that fans the flames of a relationship. When you can fully grant trust to your partner, it allows each of you to fill each other’s needs within the relationship. Not trusting your partner is often not a sign of their untrustworthiness, rather lack of trust in yourself - which is where the work then needs to happen. Today we…
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Usually when we think about hormones, we think about mood swings, bloating and weight gain. But our hormones play a massive factor in everything from emotional control, to alleviating pain, bloating and inflammation, better sleep, steadier eating patterns, stress management and sex drive. And knowing how to control our hormones means having much gr…
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373. The Healing Power of Writing with Dr. Jade Teta
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Writing is one of the most powerful things you can do to heal and grow. Having just penned a book on relationships (coming spring 2024) with my incredible friend and host of the Next Level Human podcast, Dr. Jade Teta, we’re taking you behind the scenes to explain the whirlwind physical and emotional process of writing an entire book in just 9 days…
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This short episode covers two very fundamental questions I ask my self routinely that have completely changed my relationships and the way I communicate: Am I acting out of fear or out of love right now? How can I show up in a way right now that I’ll be proud of 5, 10, 20 years from now? Both questions likely require a lot of unpacking, vulnerabili…
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Like the saying “once burned, twice shy,” a healthy relationship can be hard to trust if you’ve been burned in the past. The best relationships might even bring up more resistance because they can feel like unfamiliar territory. But one of the best things we can do to heal from past scars is to lay our defenses down and be open to allowing love and…
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This time, I’m answering the questions. This special episode of Room to Grow™ was taken from my guest appearance on the Between Heaven and Earth podcast hosted by Intuitive Coach, Lisa K. Lisa invited me on her show to talk about how to successfully approach dating, including how self love, intuition, trust, loneliness and playfulness all play a ma…
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Fear of change can often leave us dangling on the cusp of our own massive success. Consequently, instead of unleashing our full power to the universe, we lock ourselves in the subconscious “safe zone” of the things, relationships, situations and habits that minimize our power. Change is indeed scary as hell. But stepping into your full power requir…
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“How do I know if they’re the one?” I get this question more often than I can tell you. But truthfully, I don’t believe there’s only one person in the world for us. And trying to fit that perfect someone into your preconceived love story presents a number of challenges and very, very often keeps people in bad relationships longer than they should b…
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Not everyone deserves a place in your heart. But closing ourselves off isn’t the answer either. Boundaries can become fortresses. And then we wonder why no one can ever break through. Yet it’s not always about setting every boundary under the sun with each individual person in your life. It’s about showing up as the person you want to be, and watch…
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The journey to self-love begins with liking yourself first. But doing this work can present one of the biggest battles we all face as humans: loneliness. It's one of the things that keeps us in mediocre relationships far past their expiry dates, because being in the company of another seems, in theory, better than being alone. But relationships wit…
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There are more “labels” than ever floating around out there, especially in the areas of self-help and personal development. Occasionally, labels can be helpful by helping us to feel less isolated and alone in our “weirdness.” But identifying too strongly with any particular label has the potential to do more harm than good. They prevent us from vie…
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364. Not All Men, But Almost Always With Traver Boehm Of Man UNcivilized
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This conversation is hands-down one of my favourites to date on this podcast. We’re speaking with Traver Boehm, an author of two books, 2 time TEDx Speaker, men’s coach and founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement, which is radically redefining the way men around the globe experience their masculinity by uniquely blending both primal elements of m…
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Can people change? The short answer is yes. The real question is: can we have the compassion to see one’s (including our own) potential, versus forever holding them to past behaviors and actions? Honouring one’s potential to change doesn’t mean erasing the wounds of the past. But there’s incredible healing power in forgiveness and in recognizing on…
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When we make decisions that we know are hard now, but will be worth it in the end, that’s choosing your hard. On the outside, what looks like hard work, messiness and sacrifice, means taking the time to properly grow the roots needed to live your most abundant, unshakable life. It can feel like hunkering down for a long, dark winter. But your winte…
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If the dating pool is feeling smaller and smaller for you, ask yourself: why is that a bad thing? What if it actually means a better chance at the relationship you’re looking for? This requires a reframe of what “abundance” truly means when it comes to dating and relationships. The fact is, not everyone is a match for you. But you don’t actually wa…
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It might be easy to think that time is the most important thing in building a strong relationship. But time means nothing if it's not spent wisely. Today, we’re we’re talking about three important things - call them myths - you need to understand about time: -Time doesn't heal all wounds -Length does not equal depth -Energy is far more valuable tha…
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359. Fatherhood & the Absent Father Epidemic: Building a Community of Better & More Present Fathers with Kelly Gardner
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Kelly Gardner is on a mission to lead dads towards the next great evolution in fatherhood. He is the Founder of “New Dad Network” - group programs and events specifically for men to work through the challenges of being a “dad” and toward embodying holistic, masculine leadership - his definition of “fatherhood.” The goal is to give a safe space for …
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Intuition is our instinctive ability to know something is right or wrong, without knowing how or why we know it. Everyone from highly successful executives, to mathematicians and fighter pilots practice their intuitive abilities to perform at an extremely high level. And while some may cast it aside as mysticism or “woo,” there is a science behind …
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This episode outlines my “Four C’s of Connection” which are Curiosity, Compassion, Communication & Courage. This framework is crucial to healthier relationships with yourself, with your romantic partner and platonically with literally anyone. And each of the Four C’s builds on each other in particular order. If you can hone in on and embody these f…
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Somewhere at the intersection of science and spirituality is comfort. Science gives us comfort in its ability to explain exactly how things happen. Spirituality gives us comfort to trust things that science can never explain. When we’re open minded to both, we start to fully appreciate how humans are connected physically, emotionally and energetica…
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355. Can Men & Women Just Be Friends? with Dr. Jade Teta
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It’s a question that’s been around forever: can men and women just be friends? Who better than to discuss this with than with one of my nearest and dearest friends, Dr. Jade Teta, host of The Next Level Human podcast and co-host of an ongoing Relationships Series here on Room To Grow™ (more episodes below). While Jade and I (like many others) have …
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Personal growth helps us to develop new and better emotional responses to whatever life throws our way. As we heal and develop emotional regulation, stress, pain and fear are replaced with newfound peace, calmness and self trust. The challenge becomes rewiring our minds to accept this new amazing power, without questioning it. Today, I’ll share 6 k…
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Our best intentions don’t always land the way we hoped. Everyone has their own language and each word and action carries a different energetic weight for everyone. So how do we ensure our best intentions don’t get crushed under the weight of a painful impact? Today, I’ll explain subtle ways we can become more aware of how we communicate verbally, t…
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Every time we betray our true self in order to please someone else, we abandon a small part of us. Every time we say “yes” when we really mean “no,” or ignore our own needs, or cling to an unhealthy relationship for fear of hurting their feelings, we give up another small part of our authentic self. Slowly, those small parts add up to a gaping hole…
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The best way to receive what the new year has in store for you is to incorporate the lessons you learned over the past year. In this episode, I’m sharing the 5 most important things I learned in the past year pertaining to integrity, presence, relationships, patience and letting go. I’ve also included a list of questions to ask yourself as you audi…
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350. The Penis Episode: How Men & Women Can Become Better Lovers and Addressing Male Insecurities with Dr. Jade Teta
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Many men encounter tremendous insecurity around their penis, particularly in relation to size, appearance and sexual performance. It’s an issue my dear friend Dr. Jade Teta (Founder, Next Level Human) encourages men to not only talk more openly about, but learn more about in order to dispel many of the misconceptions about their “manhood” and great…
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