For women facing tough internal conflicts and for men who seek to understand women better. 01:50:00 Be Present 03:10:00 Balance Desire and Good Stewardship 03:42:00 Missed Opportunity 06:48:00 Continuous Progress 07:43:00 Michelle’s Review 09:05:00 Investing in Yourself is Attractive 11:44:00 What do I pray for? 16:41:00 Men & Your Accomplishments …

An informal Q&A from my porch! Married Men Flirting, What is Cheating?, Bad Relationships with a Family Member, Do I Need to Change My Tone?, Open Relationships, She’s Great and I Don’t Trust It, Dating Outside Your Circle 01:16 Married Men Flirting 01:38 Micro-Cheating 04:40 Bad Relationship with Sibling 06:07 Should I Change My Tone? 14:36 My Hus…

Giving you tools you can begin using ASAP at The Attachment Workshop! Listen in to some questions sent in on Instagram Live. Workshop is Sunday, Oct. 13 at 11 AM EST or Monday, Oct. 14 @ 6 PM EST. You choose your day! 2 hour workshop for $15 (10% the price of a 1-on-1 session) Click here to Register Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form…

One of the most common pairs - the Anxious-Avoidant Couple. Here are 8 Points for you to work on if this has been your pattern in dating. If you are currently in this type of relationship, you will hear things you can your partner can work on together… with a therapist! 03:33 Anxious-Avoidant Pairing 05:03 I Was Anxious, Then Avoidant, Then Secure …

For single people who want to vet better! Ask THESE 5 questions to get a better idea of who you're dealing with and if they're worth your time. 5 Questions you NEED to Ask Before Date 3 05:51 Social Media is a circus 08:18 “I’d Rather Be Single” 18:21 What Are You Looking For? 20:15 Hedging Your Bet 24:52 Do You Want Kids? 31:04 First Class vs. Eco…

Can Women and Men *really* be friends? Should you even have opposite-gender friends if you’re in a romantic relationship? 04:37 Will I do paid matchmaking? 07:02 Free Coaching and Free Therapy - Sessions will be made public (https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/pLCXjOMz) 08:46 Can women be friends with men? 17:13 Context, Nuance, and Rigidity 20:13 …

The last 5 questions from my Live Q&A 00:38 Communication Skills 06:30 “Should I date someone I’m not physically attracted to?” 10:10 Look Better 15:16 How does Taylor deal with negativity online? 18:38 How to deal with the condescending nature of the question “Who Hurt You?” 21:37 Navigating STI/STD conversations in dating? Thank you for your supp…

Be sure to follow on Instagram @iamtaylorchandler to participate LIVE and submit questions! How to stay hopeful and optimistic while dating? Social Media Detox Get clear on your Values and what you want Being a Serious Person when Dating Physical Appearance - Show up Ready Serious Communication Know your Strengths and Weaknesses “I keep giving grac…

Manage the conflict between wanting a relationship while having fear of becoming too attached, or attached to the wrong person! At the end of the episode I give you 4 things you may want to consider when determining if the person you’re dating is worth the investment. 04:27 What does it mean to become “Attached”? 06:00 Your Attitude About Attachmen…

Let's Review! Attachment is a Major Key for Better Relationships Your Attachment Style helps you understand how you relate to others, what your triggers and blindspots are (and why), and gives you a map to what you Need to feel safe and happy. Everyone has either an Insecure style or a Secure style. Insecure Attachers struggle with maintaining heal…

I see a clear rise in the number of women who say they are abstaining from physical intimacy. This can make dating difficult. I understand this personally! It makes it even MORE difficult when you’re not really being honest with yourself and/or others about WHY you’re abstaining. Here are some things to consider if you are dating while abstaining, …

Most people dating seem to be WAY more concerned with what they’re getting rather than what they can give! Everyone is in relationships to fulfill some kind of personal goal but it becomes selfish and toxic when you lose sight of how you can support and nourish the one you’re with. Today we’re talking about GIVING and RECIPROCATION. I’m highlightin…

Manipulation Tactics - How to Spot Them and What to Do About It What is DARVO? DENY ATTACK REVERSE Effects of DARVO Resist DARVO References: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/darvo/ https://bayareacbtcenter.com/reverse-darvo-for-combating-gaslighting-and-emotional-abuse/#:~:text=What%20Is%20DARVO%3F,the%20blame%20onto%20their%20victims. Thank you for…

This episode is a conglomerate of a few topics! -There’s a difference between wanting a relationship and being Ready for a relationship. Your emotional availability makes all the difference. -Many women can function well on their own, but still don’t have the relationship they really want. Let’s talk about some of the things that need to change in …

When you become aware of how your childhood has impacted your adulthood, angry feelings arise towards your parents. You realize your anxiety or your avoidance is directly related to how you have experienced your mother and father. It’s common to have conflicted feelings. You may struggle with loving them and resenting them. Having empathy for their…

We experience frustration and pain when the position someone has in our life does not match our experience of them. For example - You can have a mother who you do not experience as mothering. A father who does not treat you like a son or daughter. A spouse who treats you like a stranger. _ One of the goals of this video is to help you make a distin…

Q&A from Dec 2023 about dating and relationship topics: Including - Serious Dating What does it meant to be “Exclusive” Passport bros How to soften your communication “What do you bring to the table?” Toxic friends Effort in dating Defensiveness Vetting Why people lie Relationship goals Casual physical intimacy *Let’s work together (1-on-1): https:…

Attachment Wounds are the experiences that serve as catalysts for Insecure Attachment. I’m going to define specific Attachment Wounds, describe the effect of those wounds, and point you in the direction you need to go in to heal these wounds. If you don't, these wounds bleed out into your present relationships (whether platonic or romantic, but esp…

Your Attachment Style begins developing at a young age and is able to be defined by age 5! In this video I’m going to go over 4 big areas of Attachment Development 1. Attachment Bases 2. Concepts of Self and Other 3. Programming 4. Intervention 01:06 Overview 06:23 Self-Concept 8:56 Other-Concept / Exploration 12:54 Survival 18:29 Programming 22:05…

Tiana is basically an Attachment Expert at this point! She’s done all the workshops and the Reattach Coaching Program. She has a lot of insight and wisdom for you about situationships, self-esteem, and overall guidance about what you can expect on your journey of self-improvement and healing. I’m grateful for her time and I know you’re going to get…

Rafer is a husband, father, and pastor in New Mexico who struggled with Anger and Anxiety - until he did his Work! Listen in as he shares about his desire to live like Jesus, coming to terms with the fact he was not, and doing the necessary steps to change. Reattach Fast Track Beginning August 28th 1-on-1 Interest Thank you for your support! 1-on-1…

Season 9 Finale! Let's go into the reality of this all-too-common and always-stressful paring: the Anxious-Preoccupied and the Dismissive-Avoidant I'll define the terms, break down what most people THINK this pairing is and what it ACTUALLY is, and I'll share what I think you should do about it! See you in season 10 :) Thank you for your support! 1…

Ashley completed 1-on-1s and the Reattach Coaching Program! One of the many things I love about Ashley and this episode is that her trigger into healing her codependency occurred with a platonic friend. Many others (including me!) have experienced this with friends and it's awesome to hear someone talking openly about it, since most of the time we'…

We love a Q&A! I'm helping you with... Shifting from Anxious to Secure Attachment Healing Love Addiction What to do with someone who switches up on you Understanding Stonewalls Reconnecting How to deal with people who keep reminding you of your mistakes Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Cashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtay…

10 ways to show up as more Emotionally Safe for Better Outcomes! You’re going to want your notepad out for this one. The unedited version of this podcast is double the time and had me cracking up, so if you want to join us for Live Recordings, join us on Patreon! $5 / month tier It’s also a great way to give back to the podcast on the low and on th…

My favorite dating coach has finally graced the podcast! Alison - @alignwithalison - is giving you her best tips on: Putting yourself out there Believing what people tell you What kinds of questions to ask Potential Matches What to do with the Submission word Do "the butterflies" matter? Follow her on IG here: @alignwithalison and check her service…

Trust is on the GROUND FLOOR of healthy relationships! When the foundation is weak, everything else falls apart. Here's some insight into what to do about ONGOING relationships that have experienced attachment wounds / broken trust. How to break from Denial and Clear Confusion The Hyper-independence to Co-dependence Spectrum The importance of Inter…

I worked with Alexandria 1-on-1 and in the Reattach Coaching Group. Then, she came to the Reattach Retreat in Atlanta - December 2022. Now, she is serving on the Reattach Team, helping others through the Reattach Program (IT'S BACK Y'ALL!) and planning the Reattach 2023 Retreat! This is what Healing sounds like :) Thank you for your support! 1-on-1…

Emotional Safety is a 3-part series recorded Live on Zoom, available for Reattachers on Patreon! You can join us - click here. -What is an Emotionally Safe person? -What happens when Attachment Wounds aren’t attended to? -Understand Insecure Attachment through the lens of crying babies -The link between the Past and Present -How you can start break…

The final part in the series! -The undercover reason you pair with under-developed people -The role of anxiety -What your parent has to do with it 2-Hour Live Workshop on Zoom - Sat. March 25 ($25) Replay available for attendees Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Cashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagra…

Sometimes a Bridge doesn't need to be Demolished, it needs to be Re-Designed! Women who thrive leading, planning, directing, and creating can have issues in the areas most important to building healthy intimate relationships. This episode gives 10 points to focus on to help Design better relationships. The High Achieving Women Workshop is 2 hours o…

Happy Women’s Month! The High Achieving Women coaching group is a 3-day group for women who want to: …increase satisfaction in personal relationships to complement your professional success …stop dating projects or assignments. Date date healthy. Reciprocal. And understand the types that works WELL for you. …manage the difference between your Norm …

Healing Insecure Attachment can be messy, so I’m laying out the major keys you need to unlock the way forward. Breaking down “hard” skills of: identifying your attachment, managing triggers, expressing emotional needs, and setting boundaries Plus “soft” skills of: communicating with empathy, and the discipline of forgiveness and acceptance I releas…

Have you ever felt like there was something *different* about your attachment with someone? Deeper & more intense, perhaps more dramatic & risky. Hard to let go of but hard to be a part of at the same time? Soul Tie: an intense emotional and spiritual bond, usually developed after physical intimacy. We’re going to talk about how Soul Ties develop a…

You can improve your dating & relationship experiences by improving your ability to manage red flags when they pop up! EVERYONE has “something,” including you and me. Rather than ejecting too early, let’s talk about managing conflict and misunderstandings better so you don’t accidentally throw away a good thing. In this episode... -Difference betwe…

The season is over but I will be continuing posting videos & doing Q&As on Patreon! Look forward to a Series of content, including breaking down popular television shows! This episode - Letting Go - takes the process of releasing the past to a high level that won’t just help you over a breakup, but.. if you pay attention.. will be a key for moving …

Let me know in the Reviews how this season has served you (we're almost at the end) and tell me what you want to hear more of! Thanks for listening in and for your support :) Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Cashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler…

What is the Fearful-Avoidant? Why does the Fearful-Avoidant do what s/he does? How do you shift the Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style? Attachment Style Workbook To watch and join-in live, plus additional audio & written content, join us on Patreon! Thank you for your support and let me know how things are going for you in the Reviews :) Thank you f…

As you are putting more into your personal development, it can become painfully obvious when you come into contact with others who have not! You also realize how valuable your resources are, like your time, attention, affection, and space, so you want to protect those things as best as possible. Making great decisions and being willing to correct t…

Live Q&A pt. 2. If you want to join the party, Live Q&As are on Patreon! Questions also submitted on Patreon Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Cashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandlerPor Taylor Chandler

Dr. Dawn is our resident trauma therapist and she and I are talking about the trauma of heartbreak! -How It affects you as an attachment wound (relational trauma) -Taking accountability for behavior in relationships -Hope for change -How to move forward Thanks for listening in! Find my guest here, Dr. Dawn here: @drdawnonthereal Thank you for your …

The primary attachment of childhood and its impact on your adulthood is significant. I help you understand how we process the attachment issues between ourselves and our mothers and I show you the outcomes in adulthood. Most importantly, I'm going to challenge you to think about the Mother Issue is a very different way. Instead of just focusing on …

Kizzle, founder of @ExpressYourselfBlackMan and Safe Haven, a holistic healing platform for Black Men, is joining us to talk about Black Mental Health, leading a large following on social media, and debunking myths about therapy. Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Cashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagr…

Live Q&A. To join us and to submit your questions to be answered on the Podcast, join the Patreon! Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Cashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandlerPor Taylor Chandler

The deepest root of Codependency and the ultimate solution to Secure Attachment. This was a different conversation and one I believed has shifted us into a much needed conversation. Thank you for listening! And - Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Cashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorcha…

Kassie talks to us about the difficult, necessary, and then surprisingly easy decisions she has made in her Shift to a better, healthier version of herself. One of the things I love about this conversation is the discussion around loneliness. We have all felt lonely... making this issue a paradox in itself. In other words - how is it that I feel so…

Welcome back! Let's all ground back in Attachment so we can refresh our language and perspective. If you get something out of this, let me know in the Reviews & press those Starz! Thank you :) Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Cashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamt…

Another season finale! In this episode, we’re talking about the Avoidant Partner and what you all need to be able to do together to re-pattern this super-problematic dynamic. After this episode, we have about an 8 week break so make sure you’re SUBSCRIBED with your NOTIFICATIONS ON so you can hop in when we’re back! You also want to be on my email …

All about the Coupling of an Anxious person and an Avoidant person. In this first part, I talk about what you need to know from the beginning to be successful + strategies for the Anxious type. Int he second part (the season finale!), we'll get into strategies for the Avoidant type and what you all need to be able to do together. If you're in a rel…

Tomeika was dissatisfied with her relationship life and had been used to living that way for 15-20 years. Now things are so much different. We're going to talk about - -the importance of committing and stepping into your goal -sharing with others in a Group format -what she now sees in her misaligned expectations with Others -how writing down her t…